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For over 35 years, I've helped courageous people facing loss, trauma, and relationship crises return to who they are and reclaim their authentic self.

Returning to yourself is the starting point and foundation for everything you want to be, do, and experience.

I've also faced and healed deeply personal struggles of my own. (One thing they don't tell you is that if you're committed to your inner growth, it never ends!)

Today I work with clients from many walks of life and backgrounds — stay-at-home-moms, executive coaches, activists, aspiring artists and writers, healthcare practitioners, and a few visionary entrepreneurs doing the kind of work that changes the world on a massive scale.

The world is in desperate need of change at the moment. And each of us has a part.

Victoria's New Book!

Personal Boundaries for Dummies®

You deserve to create limits in your relationships (and with yourself) that feel mutual and respectful — and you can make it happen. Get started with Personal Boundaries For Dummies!

  • Discovering how boundaries work
  • Identifying your limits
  • Creating boundaries in six steps
  • Knowing what to do when boundaries don't work
  • Dealing with pushback and resistance when you begin setting boundaries

Order Personal Boundaries For Dummies using one of the links below or purchase from your favorite book retailer.

What people say about learning boundaries with Victoria

Personal Boundaries for Dummies is the smartest book you can purchase if you are hoping for a jackpot of gems for making life more manageable through boundaries. 

-Jill P.

This should be required reading for adulthood! It is the best how-to on making EVERY relationship in your life better. 


Your book changed my life. It was pivotal to helping me learn how to set boundaries and practice safety and well being. 

I've struggled to learn about boundaries through some really difficult times in my life. Victoria gives you every detail you need to know about what boundaries are, and what they aren’t. And how to set boundaries and then hold them. I would have been lost if it wasn’t for her.

What I've learned from you helped me set simple boundaries (or make requests) of friends and family so that my relationships are more comfortable and functional. The process is clear and simple!

A book even a therapist can love! This book is now my go-to for the majority of my patients, and frankly, even for myself. 

-David Ashburner

Podcast Episodes

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#1 – Getting Started With Boundaries

If you’re a listener of my original boundaries podcast, Beyond Bitchy, first I want to thank you for being a listener and second, I want to give you the backstory…

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#2 – How Boundaries Improve Your Life

If you haven’t yet explored what boundaries are, you might have a lot of misconceptions about how they work. People often think boundaries are “mean,” “harsh,” or “rigid,” but the…

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#3 – Knowing When You Don’t Have a Boundary

Believing that you set a boundary when you actually haven’t is a common problem you’ll encounter when you’re learning about boundaries. This episode will help you make sure that doesn’t happen…

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#4 – The Two Functions of Boundaries

Boundaries—the limits you place on yourself and others—have two primary functions: protecting you and other, and defining who you are. If you’re familiar with boundaries, especially the comparison of boundaries…

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#5 – How to Know You Need to Set a Boundary

How do you know when you need to set a boundary? Sometimes it’s obvious, but sometimes it’s more challenging to know—or that you have the power and the right to…

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#6 – Creating Boundaries With Six Steps

If you’re familiar with my work or you’re a listener from my original boundaries podcast (Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries), you might be wondering why there are now…

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You & Me

After 16 years supporting partners moving beyond betrayal, my current work with women has expanded to include all women who want to discover their most authentic self and what they're meant to create in their lives — personally, professionally, and in their most important relationships.

If you're a partner moving beyond betrayal who has realized the life-changing TRUTH that no one other than you is responsible for creating the peace, self-approval, and love you long for, I can help you navigate the next phase of your courageous journey.


Private coaching is an intensely intimate, high impact experience that is ideal for you if you’re feeling stuck or at the end of your inner resources for solving what’s not working in your life. Together we’ll uncover what’s holding you back and focus on the specific actions that will move you from where you are now to where you want to be.

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