#1 – Getting Started With Boundaries

If you’re a listener of my original boundaries podcast, Beyond Bitchy, first I want to thank you for being a listener and second, I want to give you the backstory about Boundaries Queen.

In the summer of 2023, I received an unsolicited email from the publisher of the “For Dummies” series asking me if I’d like to write a Dummies® book about personal boundaries. The opportunity to share what I’ve learned about boundaries with an even wider audience was irresistible, and my new book, Personal Boundaries For Dummies, will be released on May 7, 2024!

Contrary to popular opinion, healthy, effective boundaries aren’t “mean” or “harsh.” Instead, they create space and freedom—in the same way that building a fence allows you to experience your backyard in peace and privacy. If you’re skeptical about the need for good boundaries, ask yourself this: what would a world without boundaries look like? How would you function without walls, schedules, deadlines, arrival or departure times, standards, or laws?

Tune in to this first episode of the new show to learn how to create peace, protection, and connection by identifying, creating, and maintaining healthy, effective boundaries. I’m thrilled that you’re here, and I look forward to continuing this journey together into an even deeper appreciation and understanding of boundaries.

Biggest Takeaways From Episode #1:

  • You probably fall into one of three categories: you’ve recently realized that boundaries are “a thing,” or you have a pretty good grasp of boundaries but know you have more to learn, or you’re a counselor or coach working with clients who need solid information about boundaries but have struggled to find a good resource.
  • Boundaries are a skill just like learning to ride a bicycle. You can learn the principles here, then take them out into the world to practice and experiment with what you’ve learned. I hope you’ll go out there and make a lot of mistakes! That’s the way you learn.
  • As you start or improve your boundary work, you’ll encounter pushback and resistance. This is completely normal, so know that it’s actually a good thing—a sign that you’re doing something different.

Highlights from Episode #1:

  • Welcome to the very first episode of the Boundaries Queen Podcast! This episode will orient you to the new show and help you get started with boundaries. [00:31]
  • Victoria talks about how orienting calms the nervous system, using the example of finding the perfect spot to sit in a restaurant. [01:18]
  • We hear about Victoria’s thoughts on ending the Beyond Bitchy podcast, and what’s happened since then that led to the launching of Boundaries Quuen. [03:03]
  • Victoria talks about her new book and shares her love for helping people understand how boundaries work. She also explains the backstory for the name of this podcast. [06:43]
  • Let’s talk about you and your boundaries! [09:47]
  • Victoria shares some important facts about boundaries. [11:48]
  • Boundaries give you space, freedom, and peace. [14:11]
  • What exactly are boundaries? To illustrate the answer, Victoria explores the most fundamental ways that boundaries operate in your life. [15:51]
  • We hear a short list of the benefits of boundaries (a topic Victoria will address in detail in future episodes). [18:29]
  • Are you listening to this episode before May 7, 2024? If so, you can still take advantage of the preorder bonuses Victoria is offering for Personal Boundaries For Dummies. [19:53]

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