#64 – Boundaries Quick Tips #9: Is Sex a “Need” Your Partner Must Fulfill for You?

Are you feeling pressured to have sex with your partner or spouse? While this is a serious topic that deserves time, the answer is clear and unambiguous. Vicki provides answers for both the one being pressured, and the person pressuring their partner for sex.

Biggest Takeaways From Episode #64:

• No person has a right to another person’s body!
• Even if sex is a need rather than a want, it doesn’t mean another person must fulfill it for us. 
• Adults are responsible for taking care of their needs.
• If your partner repeatedly says no to sex, explore the reasons.
• You have a right to say no to sex even, in a marital relationship.

Highlights from Episode #63:

• Welcome back to the show! [00:40]
• Today’s topic: Are you obligated to take care of your spouse’s or partner’s sexual needs? [00:50]
• No person has a right to another person’s body… Ever! [01:56]
• Why sex is a want and not a need. [02:16]
• Even if sex is a need, it doesn’t imply that another person must fulfill it. [03:01]
• What are true needs and who fulfills them? [03:59]
• Partners who demand sex often also participate in solo sex. [05:02]
• Physical and sexual boundaries are non-negotiable. [06:02]
• What to do if your partner consistently says no to sex. [06:56]
• Adults are responsible for getting their needs met. [09:08]
• If you’re being pressured into sex, you have a right to say no. [09:59]
• No one else is responsible for making you happy but you. [10:37]

Links and Resources:

• Vicki Tidwell Palmer
• Beyond Bitchy Podcast Espisode #17: Yes, No & Maybe: Sexual Boundaries for Women with Sheri Winston